“Why would you choose to spend ten days in a self-imposed prison instead of ten days on a beach in Tulum?” Unsurprisingly that was the reaction of most of my friends when I announced I had signed up for a ten-day silent retreat called Vipassana.

I signed up because I was about to make some big changes in my life. I had just gone through a very abrupt divorce, and I was planning to move across the globe, so before that, I had promised myself that I would sit in silence to make sure this big decision was the right one.

Little did I know, this experience wouldn’t just help in that decision. Instead, it would do much more for me. 

It’s no surprise to me that Yuval Harari, the historian and best-selling author of “Sapiens” admitted that it is thanks to his annual silent retreat that he was able to write his three best-selling books.

Silent retreats haven’t yet gone mainstream, but I believe they will and here is why. 

What is the Vipassana silent retreat?

 No meat, egg or dairy. No talking. Not even looking people in the eyes. No computer, phone or notebook. Those are some of the rules of vipassana meditation, an ancient Buddhist meditation technique used to calm the mind through a strict code of silence.

The way to get started in practice is through a ten-day residential silent retreat. You get woken up at four am for a four-thirty start and meditate until nine pm.

There are breaks, six-thirty to eight am, eleven am to one pm, five to six pm. During the rest of the time, you are expected to be meditating.

Vegan food is served twice a day. Soon food becomes your only pleasure of the day, but you are instructed not to overeat as it’s easier to meditate on a light meal you soon learn. 

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There is about one hour of teaching in the evening, that’s it.

This means you spend about 14 hours with your eyes closed, meditating. These strict rules force you to go inwards and observe what goes on in your mind when you do. It turns out that 90 per cent of what you tell yourself is fiction.

Vipassana teaches you to differentiate between fiction and reality

During the retreat, I imagined something terrible had happened to my family (I later found out they were all safe and healthy). I noticed myself going in circles over deep resentment towards my ex-husband, and I noticed myself imagining a lot of worst-case scenarios in all aspects of my life.

What struck me is that most of my thoughts were projections, assumptions, worries and thoughts that were not serving me.

I remember reading that 90 per cent of what we worry about never actually happens. While I sat there in silence, noticing my monkey mind with a magnifying glass and it struck me how I was creating my prison.

Vipassana helped me develop what I now call the “bullshit radar”. I can now quickly notice thoughts that aren’t productive and reframe my mind with thoughts that expand my world instead of shrinking it.  

Relearning how to focus again on a digitalised lifestyle

A study shows that the average attention span has dropped from twelve seconds to eight seconds due to the increasing digitalisation of the brain.

Vipassana taught me to focus on my breath for days, and little by little, I noticed myself redeveloping a sharp focus I hadn’t experienced in years. 

The first eight days were very painful for me. My back hurt from sitting in the same position for days, my legs kept falling asleep and being honest, I wondered why I had signed up for this torture!

On day eight, something strange happened, something I am still trying to comprehend, to be honest. I was fed up and tired of the retreat, and my legs and back were hurting so much no matter what position I moved into. The pain was constant.

As per the teachings, I focused on breathing and observing the pain instead of feeling it, and suddenly the pain dissolved entirely!

That’s right, the excruciating pain I felt for days was magically gone.

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I later read that it’s as simple: what you focus on expands, so by focusing on my breath instead of the pain, my mind wasn’t paying attention to the pain anymore, and therefore I didn’t feel it anymore. 

How Vipassana made me a better angel investor

There is so much more to be said about the Vipassana practice, but my takeaways as an investor are the following:

• To be a good investor, I need to be able to do my due diligence instead of blindly following other investors.
• I also need to understand how solid and committed the team is.
• Since my retreat and developing the “bullshit radar”, I am better at putting my emotions and my bias aside to understand what a good investment is and what isn’t.   

Four months after the retreat: What has stuck with me?

• Focus – I relearned how to focus on something for more than a couple of minutes without getting distracted. As a result, my ability to do deep, focused work has been better than it has been for years.
• Becoming aware of my own bias – As an investor, I am more aware of my own bias and when my emotions get in the way of making sound investment decision-making. 

Remember, Vipassana is a daily practice. Once you stop practising, you lose it.

You may have read that you need 10,000 hours to achieve mastery of pretty much any skill; the same goes for Vipassana.

It’s not the ten-day silent retreat that has made me a better investor; it’s the daily practice of what I learned on the retreat that makes me a better investor.

If you have any questions, don’t hesitate to reach out to me via email at helena@toptierimpact.com or Instagram at @helenawasss.

This article was first published on March 25, 2022.

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